When You Don't Have to Be Formal on Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day might be awkward if you're casually dating or in a new relationship. Nothing puts a strain on a fresh relationship like the annual Valentine's Day celebration.
The fact is that if you aren't in a full-fledged BF/GF relationship, you might not be ready to send each other emotive cards, pay for a lavish lunch, or announce your love for each other. Don't let a fake calendar date put you under pressure to move things ahead quickly or force a DTR session when you're not ready. The good news is that there is a way to deal with it without coming off as uncomfortable or tacky.
1. Allow It to Happen Naturally
However, if you select this path, you must be prepared for nothing to happen. Understand that not spending Valentine's Day together at this early stage of a relationship indicates nothing about your future together. Some men want to wait until they have formed a committed relationship that they are confident will last.
2. Maintain Low Expectations
3. Bring it up, but don't be confrontational about it.
On that topic, be aware that some men compare spending Valentine's Day together to going down the aisle and regard this as a sign of a significant commitment—something he may not be ready for after five days.
4. Ask Him Out invitation, while some may feel underwhelmed.
Examine your target audience. You may make this a capital-V Valentine's Day date or just schedule a date that falls on February 14 but isn't defined by red hearts, Godiva, and candlelight gazes into each other's eyes.
5. Make Another Plan
It may appear that simply denying the day exists is the better option. But if you do that, there's a good chance things will be unpleasant and you'll end up avoiding each other on that specific day, which is a horrible idea. Texting "Happy Valentine's Day" is a good place to start. It's unpretentious and casual, much like your hook-up situation.
You may have the rest of your lives to celebrate Valentine's Day together, so don't take this as a benchmark for how things will be in the future. Respect the grey area and plan pleasant activities whether or not you want to spend time with him to avoid feeling resentful when sitting at the table.
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