Cancer cure

The message

I’m a two-year breast cancer survivor, and I wanted to share something that became an important part of my healing journey.

During treatment, I was emotionally and mentally devastated. I began working with a therapist whose approach was very holistic and out of the ordinary. One of the exercises she guided me through was creating a “map of my life” to help identify unresolved emotional experiences that may have shaped me over the years.

I also did a lot of research on different perspectives and came across both the Germanic Medicine and Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM). These approaches explain how chronic emotional stress, unresolved emotions such as guilt and fear can affect our well-being in specific areas of our bodies connected to the conflicts we are internalizing. I started looking deeper to find the root cause.

I even asked ChatGPT what cancer is and the explanation was that our bodies are constantly repairing themselves and removing damaged or abnormal cells. Cancer develops when those normal regulatory processes get stuck and/or break down. When I read that, all the emotional work I had been doing made a lot of sense:

When my oldest daughter was 15, she developed an eating disorder and attempted to take her own life. Her father and I had divorced when she was eight. I later moved overseas with my daughters, far from their dad. They still visited him regularly, but as she got older, she became resentful that I had taken her away. At 15, she decided she wanted to live with her father. She was unhappy, but she was also too proud to change her mind because she kept telling me she needed to be with him. Everything spiraled from there. Watching her struggle from a distance was one of the most painful experiences of my life. I carried overwhelming guilt. I questioned every decision I had made. I wondered if I had failed as a mother. I kept thinking that if I had stayed, maybe I could have protected her or spared her some of that pain.

Those feelings didn’t disappear. I buried them and those emotions affected the way my cells responded.

According to Germanic Medicine, breast cancer is viewed as the biological response to an intense, unexpected emotional conflict related to caregiving, nurturing, or protecting someone (often described as a “mother-child conflict,” though it can involve anyone the person sees as needing their care).

In this framework:

* The emotional conflict is sudden, deeply distressing, and unresolved.

* The breast is believed to respond biologically by increasing glandular tissue (or, depending on the breast tissue involved, other changes) as part of a symbolic effort to provide more nourishment or protection.

It proposes that humans share the same fundamental biological survival programs as other mammals. When an animal experiences a sudden threat involving one of its offspring or another member of its group, its body enters a biological stress response designed to help it survive the situation. Once the danger passes—for example, the lost offspring is found or the threat disappears—the animal returns to a normal state, and the biological response is considered complete.

According to this view, humans are different because we have the ability to relive experiences through memory, imagination, anticipation, guilt, regret, fear, and rumination. Rather than experiencing a conflict only in the present moment, we can replay it repeatedly in our minds or worry about it long after the original event has passed.

Germanic Medicine proposes that when a person remains emotionally “stuck” in a conflict—continually reliving it or never feeling that it has been resolved—the body’s biological adaptation also remains active instead of ending naturally. In this framework, it is the persistence of the unresolved emotional conflict, rather than the initial event itself, that is believed to prolong tissue changes. When the conflict is eventually resolved, the body is said to enter a healing phase, which is described as involving inflammation, swelling, pain, fatigue, or fever as the tissue returns to its previous state.

Applied specifically to breast cancer, this model suggests that a prolonged nurturing or protective conflict—for example, intense guilt, worry, or fear regarding a child or loved one—keeps the biological program active. The emotional experience is viewed not simply as stress but as an unresolved survival conflict that the mind continues to perceive as ongoing.

My daughter was 18 when I was diagnosed, and although she was doing better, the stuck emotions lived inside me for those years, and through therapy I realized that I had never truly processed them. I made sure that Cancer served a purpose so I gave myself permission to face that pain instead of continuing to carry it.

Healing, for me, became about much more than treating cancer. It became about learning to forgive myself, release guilt, grieve what I couldn’t change, and reconnect with who I was beyond the diagnosis. There’s a root cause, and for me it was not genetics (tests confirmed that!), but the so called “familiar” factors were all these emotions and this guilt. 

I feel so much lighter and I have learn to listen to my body. What our mind and our voices silence, the body speaks of loud and clear. Healing all of this was harder and more painful than chemo and radiation. I found out I had painful childhood memories that I had suppressed, resentment towards my parents but specially towards my mother which lead me to carry with me a distorted concept of motherhood. I worked so hard to go beyond my own capabilities so I could be better than her. I had to forgive my mother, work on that relationship and understand that she also did the best she could. I forgave myself and worked on rebuilding the relationship with my daughter understanding that I have to let her live her life the way she needs to on her own. I can be there for her, but I cannot save anyone except myself. 

We are such a perfect creation of God and our bodies know how to heal themselves. I know we have all asked ourselves ‘why me?’ My experience led me to look deep inside myself to find the answer, and I did… I’m a work in progress for sure, but I know my heart is lighter and my soul is happier. Maybe when you ask yourself ‘why me’ you can look deeper, just make sure you do it with love and compassion. Our bodies are still wonderful creations and they will work perfectly once we allow everything to flow naturally without guilt, worry, or fear. Trust the process 💕