"this five years hitch hiker" colleague

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I would really wish to ask you guys one question for long :

Should I let "this five years hitch hiker" colleague hitch a ride in my car?

There is a male colleague who had been hitch hiking through my car to go to work for five years and let me label him or title him as "this five years hitch hiker" colleague.

one colleague of My colleagues had already hitched a ride with me every day for five whole years. He is "this five years hitch hiker" colleague

Yesterday, my dad was being hospitalized and I urgently needed twenty thousand reminbi yuan.

But when I asked "this five years hitch hiker" colleague (who hitch a ride in my car for five years) for a loan,

and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague said that "this five years hitch hiker" colleague did not have any spare real cash to lend me on my dad own owed two thousand reminbi yuan hospital charges.

Today, "this five years hitch hiker" colleague called me,

and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague asked where my house location was

I said, "I had already moved, it is already not on my way anymore."

There was a few seconds of silence on the other end of the line, whom is "this five years hitch hiker" colleague

and then "this five years hitch hiker" colleague raised "this five years hitch hiker" colleague own voice:

"What? You had really Moved? When did you moved? You had just said in last week that you were still living in the old neighborhood!"

I had just poured my dad some warm water and I had just placed the cup on the bedside table with a clatter.

"I had already moved away from that point last week. It is much more closer to the hospital where my dad is in , making myself easier, and making it easier to take care of my own old Dad."

The phone went silent for a moment,

then "this five years hitch hiker" colleague tone softened:

"Can you not mind to take a detour? I am going to be late to work, if you really do not let me go hitch a ride in your car."

I took the phone and I walked to the ward door,

and I whispered:

"I really can not take a detour now. Now, every day, I have to rush to the hospital to pick up Mom from her shift every day, I do not even have the time to let you hitch any ride"

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague immediately became anxious:

"It is just seeing a patient! What is wrong with being a few minutes late? You used to be so patient when I was in a hurry, but now you will not even help me with this little thing?"

I did not retort,

the image of borrowing money yesterday flashed through my mind.

I was at the hospital paying fees,

the nurse kept urging me to pay the deposit.

I gathered the money in my phone,

only a little over eight thousand.

The first person I thought of was "this five years hitch hiker" colleague.

After all, it has been five years,

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague takes my car to work, and, "this five years hitch hiker" colleague takes my car from work every day.

It is over twenty kilometers from "this five years hitch hiker" colleague home to "this five years hitch hiker" colleague company,

and I take a ten minute detour every day to pick "this five years hitch hiker" colleague up.

I never let "this five years hitch hiker" colleague share the cost of gas.

Sometimes "this five years hitch hiker" colleague forgot to buy breakfast, and I had to buy "this five years hitch hiker" colleague an extra one too.

And/ but I never charged "this five years hitch hiker" colleague a single penny.

I thought that out of kindness, borrowing "this five years hitch hiker" colleague two thousand reminbi yuan in an emergency would not be unreasonable.

But then "this five years hitch hiker" colleague said on the phone that "this five years hitch hiker" colleague had to pay the colleague mortgage and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague car loan every month and did not have any extra money on "this five years hitch hiker" colleague, not a single cent.

I did not say much, hung up, and immediately contacted relatives to borrow money to cover the deposit.

Now "this five years hitch hiker" colleague brings up the past,

I just say, "The situation is different now," and hang up "this five years hitch hiker" colleague call

A few minutes later, "this five years hitch hiker" colleague sent me a LINE message:

"Are you deliberately causing trouble because I did not lend you money, so you are avoiding me?"

I did not reply, I had even turned off my phone, and I focused on spending time with my father rather than let any other people know what had really happen between "this five years hitch hiker" colleague and me

The next day at work,

I arrived half an hour early, and as soon as I put my things down, "this five years hitch hiker" colleague came over.

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague said leaned against my seat: "You are not a good friend! Five years of colleagues, I had ridden in your car every day, and you turn your back on me just because I did not lend you money"

Hearing on what "this five years hitch hiker" colleague had really said on me , I put down my work and looked at "this five years hitch hiker" colleague:

"I did not turn my back on you, it is not just that it is really not on my way."

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague sneered: "Who would really believe that? You used to live on the east side, I lived on the west side, and you would always take a detour to pick me up; now that you have moved to the north side, which is even much more closer to where I really live now! So why it is not on my way?"

I said: "That was then. Now my dad is in the hospital, and I have to rush there after work. I do not have the extra energy or extra time to take any one detour."

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague still would not let it go: "You are just stingy, trying to save on gas money."

Those words made me particularly uncomfortable.

For five years, I have covered all the gas, maintenance, and repair costs myself.

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague has never offered to share any of the charges.

Occasionally, I will ask "this five years hitch hiker" colleague to buy me a bottle of water,

and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague always remembers to charge me.

Last time "this five years hitch hiker" colleague had a fever,

I took a long detour to take "this five years hitch hiker" colleague to the clinic,

and drove "this five years hitch hiker" colleague home after "this five years hitch hiker" colleague appointment,

even though it delayed my own business, I did not even go complain once.

I laid it all out on me,

and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague face flushed red and then "this five years hitch hiker" colleague paled,

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague did not argue anymore, and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague just turned and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague left.

For the next few days,

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague did not call, and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague would not speak to me when we bumped into each other at work.

I had also heard about the rumors that "this five years hitch hiker" colleague had also asked other colleagues for rides,

but sadly all of the other colleagues either told "this five years hitch hiker" colleague that it was not on their way or directly asked "this five years hitch hiker" colleague to pay for gas.

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague stopped asking after two days, and now "this five years hitch hiker" colleague takes the subway to work every day, and finally "this five years hitch hiker" colleague got home half an hour longer than before.

My father was hospitalized for half a month,

and "this five years hitch hiker" colleague did not even visit once, not even typed a single LINE message.

On the contrary, other colleagues, some of the company colleagues brought fruit to visit,

and some of the company colleagues sent messages saying, "Just ask if you still need anything."

Later, my father was discharged,

and I went to work as usual,

and occasionally I bumped into "this five years hitch hiker" colleague at the subway station.

"this five years hitch hiker" colleague either pretended not to see me,

or "this five years hitch hiker" colleague had even turned "this five years hitch hiker" colleague face away.

I did not say hello to "this five years hitch hiker" colleague; we just went our separate ways.

Actually, I never pressured "this five years hitch hiker" colleague to lend me money, nor did I intentionally move to avoid "this five years hitch hiker" colleague.

It is just that this hospital or the twenty thousand reminbi money borrowing incident made me see our relationship for what it truly was.

I treated "this five years hitch hiker" colleague as a colleague with whom I could help each other,

but "this five years hitch hiker" colleague only saw me as a free ride.

Five years of taking the same route,

could not even earn me a single genuine act of understanding.

Such a relationship, it is not a loss if it ends.

Later, no one waited for me to take a detour to pick me up,

saving a lot of time commuting,

and no longer having to accommodate other people's schedules,

actually made things much easier.