Growing up without parental love.

It's very clear my mom was an emotional unavailable mother, and my dad an alcoholic. That makes life so hard for me as a little girl who needed parental love. 

man carrying baby boy and kissing on cheek

I needed my parents love so bad but they couldn't give it to me. I gave up long time ago, I gave up on love antirely I grew up with very low self esteem, confidence and self worth. I had no boundaries I developed people pleasing tendencies because of fear of rejection and abandonment. Life hasn't been easy I had to thrive and learn on my own. Parental love indeed is a foundation of any healthy child to an adult. Lacking the love of parents affected my self identity I didn't even knew who I was. I struggled to form healthy relationships trough out my life. Was very glingy and scared at the same time. 

 

Over the years I developed mental health issues, like depression, that escalated to bipolar depression, PTSD and anxiety. I have been managing symtoms trough treatment I am recovering and getting better each other. Why am sharing this with the world, I just want to share to parents and those who will be parents in the future on how it is important to love their children. 

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My name Is Ndevu Namhla, I was born and raised in a rural African town. Growing up I was a first born child at home. I have one sibling I did my lower grades to high school in that same town. Later in life I developed passion to care for children and I study child care work. I have interest in writing a book about my life true story growing up with my sibling.