"He cheated on me."
"She cheated on me."
When I see teenagers and young adults without direction using the aforementioned sentences, I shake my head. You will always see these on social media. Ụmụazị talking about cheating.
What exactly do you call cheating? You have no plans for each other, instead of adding values to your lives, you are looking for who cheated on you, and who didn't.
This finger points to what I discussed in the first post, introducing this topic. You are not matured for relationship, you are just exploring, therefore, you deserve no exclusivity that comes with relationship.
Relationship entails two adults who know what they wanted, defined it and are building themselves toward it and not babies. It is expected loyalty, exclusive love amongst both party. That's when the word "cheating" could be used when one party faulted, and not ụmụazị na-eme point and kị́lll.
But you, your parents are still feeding you. You don't even know your left from right, you want loyalty, exclusivity when both are fooling yourself.
You bill him after each Selima nkuli nkuli, he pays and you complain of him cheating on you. In his psychology as a man, he feels he owes you nothing.
Let's even assume you are ok, nature, feeding yourself, well-to-do but there is no plan, no definition of what you want, my dear, you have no right to complain when the next person moves on.
In your early stage in life, what you need is focus, self-development and trying to figure out your life.
There is time for everything: time to work and time to eat. Time to build and time to relax.
Unfortunately, some young people have left that aspect of self-development and focus on hunting what is not hunting them. Everyone wants to have babe and guy.
Let's be realistic here.
You are a boy in his 18, dating a girl in her 18. Your age mate. Don't you think you are putting so much load on yourself? What plans do you have? Your life is yet to be figured out. Do you expect her to remain with you till when, before you marry her? Do you even have such intention or she should just be there for your fleshly enjoyment?
Realistically, as we grow, our choices begin to differ. The kind of man and woman you wanted to settle down with 5 years ago, you cannot say the same thing today.
My point is, before you go into exclusive relationship, ensure you are mature to handle every responsibility that comes with it. Only go into exclusive relationship and courtship when you are sure and certain you want to marry.
Last year, a boy of 18 cried to me that he got a girl pregnant— his girlfriend of the same age. He was confused. First year student in the university. I didn't judge him or blame him at that point as everyone's reality is not the same. I told him to go meet his parents, dare the consequences and open up. Whatever they decide...
That 18 year old boy was aged enough to do anything legally, yes, but, he should have prevented that from happening through many ways: Focusing on his education; having adequate sẹxx education, using protection if he must do, being more matured before engaging, etc. First semester in the university, you never write exam, you don give woman belle.
Instead of looking for who cheated or not, focus on your education, career, add value to yourself, when it's appropriate time, na you go run. Most importantly, you'll know what you want and go for it.
You must be logged in to post a comment.