Should I still keep him

In this relationship, my friends said that I seemed to be free girl

I am 26, my boyfriend is 28, together on the premise of marriage

Just finished the 3rd anniversary celebration of our date

In the beginning we all had about the same income, around 30k per month

I do sales, he does engineering

The first year was super sweet, birthdays invited each other to travel, holiday gifts exchange

Early last year my shop closed down and I lost my job

Then I Switch to 17k clerical job to hold on

My family is unburdened, enough to spend

But his family suddenly needed money urgently

He borrows money to help his family, and has to repay tens of thousands of dollars a month

From zero burden to stressful

I saw him working so hard and took the initiative to tell him:

"This year is difficult for everyone. We do not have to celebrate the holidays with special gifts. We do not eat out less. We invite them in turn. It is simple. The most important thing is to be together."

In the second half of 2025, he had finally took it over and got better life

His Monthly income even rises directly to 60-70k!

I am genuinely happy for him

Continue to have an AA system with him, I want him to save money for marriage with peace of mind

On his birthday, I took the initiative to invite him to travel

Christmas I had hinted at the beginning of December:

Wanting a $350 Dior lipstick was a gift he could afford

And the final result?

I send him CASETiFY

I have zero gifts for Christmas, not even a meal

Birthdays are the same

Only eating steak near my home, I have to choose from restaurants

I have endured to the limit

to the 3rd anniversary

I state directly:

"I want a DIOR lipstick. I've liked Dior lipstick for a long time. Can you buy Dior lipstick for me?"

He said, "Well, I will go Dior and see the Dior lip sticks then."

I cooked a big meal with my own hands that day

After eating, we walked to Dior

Choose a good lip stick color to pay the lip stick bill

He just stood next to him, not wanting to give the lip stick money at all

In the end, I paid for the Dior lip stick myself

I endured it until I got home and burst into tears on the spot

He actually asked, "Why are you crying all of a sudden?"

I could not help but scold:

"No gifts for Christmas, no gifts for birthdays, and not even any Dior $350 lipstick on your 3rd anniversary?"

He bites back directly:

"It was you who said that festivals do not really require gifts, they can be simple, and now you are blaming me?"

I am all quiet, I only know how to cry

It never occurred to me that I understood his words that day

It will become the knife he hurt me today

I am not greedy for a Dior lipstick

I was thinking that deep down he thought I was not worthy for him to spend his own real cash

But we have been Together for three years

I have only received one perfume and one earphone

And even worse, I can only get his gifts only when there is a gift exchange

My friends say I am being a fool of myself

He Call me like free chick ...

Aside from money, he is actually not bad to me on weekdays

he Will help me remove crabs crust , pick fish bones, and take good care of me

but he just does not spend any amount of his real money on me 

On our first year anniversary day I mentioned breaking up for the first time

He cried and knelt down and begged me not to leave, saying he would change

But the thorn stays forever

I always think:

Is it because I now have 17k, low income, can not afford him with a monthly income of 70k?

Now we are superficially laughing and joking

In fact, it has been alienated to strangers

Emo every night

It is really sad, confusing

What should I do?

should I still keep him or dump him